My name is Kate and I have wasted years on blaming others for my weight. I have first hand knowledge of what it means to be fat! I have struggled with my weight for as long as I can remember and can finally say that I have found my focus.
My website focuses on a healthy lifestyle, rather than being a purely diet focused website. The reason behind my website was the day I realised that I had to help myself rather than waiting for others to ‘fix’ my problem.
When I first found myself alone with my children, I felt completely isolated. My husband had passed away and my friends started to exclude me from social activities. My new best friend became the fridge. I sat alone at night, comfort eating, blaming everyone else for my problems.
Eventually I tried and failed to loose weight, which wasn’t my fault of course. I was overwhelmed with all the different advice I was given. There are so many diets claiming to be the best. Claiming that they could help you lose weight quickly, drop 4 dress sizes in a matter of weeks and be more attractive as a result. I couldn’t find a plan of action that fitted around me and my lifestyle.
Diet is a much misused word. It means different things to different people.
To a young girl, it’s about being as thin as possible, looking at supermodels and trying to be like them. This can lead to extreme forms of dieting and eventually to serious eating disorders and sadly, in rare cases, death.
To a young man, it can mean the complete opposite. It is about bulking up, becoming muscle bound. In this case we still get extremes. We see young men taking steroids as well as other drugs to obtain, for the most part, an unobtainable goal.
There are many other forms of ‘diet’, affecting us at different times of our lives.
- The bikini/beach season – crash diet required
- The “I’m running a marathon for charity in 4 weeks” – raw egg diet
- The “bridesmaid in 6 weeks” – need to loose a stone to fit in the dress diet
You get the picture. We have all found reasons to want to diet or reasons we need to diet urgently.
Personally, I would lose weight for a short time and then, with my stressful life, work, children and a busy household, everything I planned fell by the way side and I would start comfort eating again. The weight would pile on and I would have to start over and so the cycle started again. The more times I failed, the worse I felt and the worse I felt, the more I would eat.
Obviously, these actions are not healthy. They lead the body into turmoil. We send our organs into a frenzy and our blood sugar spikes and falls. Our energy is boundless one minute and then we find ourselves suddenly tired the next. We lose sleep and concentration and we send ourselves into a downward spiral. The low comes in quietly and we don’t notice it at first. We struggle with energy, always tired. We struggle at work and don’t get things done. Unsurprisingly, we get depressed and we then start eating to feel good about ourselves.
I wondered why I should bother to try again.
- Firstly I had come to the conclusion that I was overweight and even before dieting had seen myself in a negative light
- Secondly, I had decided to ‘do something’ but was not sure what. However our celebrity culture ensured that some celebrity had the perfect diet for me
- Thirdly, I started to look at magazines and celebrities. I wanted to look like them and stopped eating. Thankfully I realised that this was not dieting but starvation
However, I had now stepped on the down escalator and my body craved food. I went for the quick fix. Burgers, chocolates, sugary snacks. I would get the fix then feel bad as I had failed in my diet. Self loathing, starvation and then the next craving. You get the picture. Maybe you have been there or know someone who has.